Pastor Chris Oyakhilome is not new to controversies. His latest sermon on marriage comes on the heels of one preached by Pastor Enoch Adeboye.
Chris’ marriage sermon has resonated over the social media as he has come under verbal attacks from both men and women.
Here are excerpt of his sermon:
“Husband does not mean the male partner in a marriage. Husband means master.
“The reason for most problems in Christian marriages is the fact that women refute God’s definition of marriage and form theirs.
“They believe they are equal partners.
“Most women have never been taught by their parents, their fathers particularly.
“In marriage, you have the man who is the head of that union and because he’s the head of that union, it’s important to understand him.
“You think he’s the one that needs to understand his wife and that is where you are wrong.
“He will eventually but you have to know the type of man you are married to and his needs.
“When you say you are marrying a man, you are coming under his authority.
“The Bible says, the man is the head of the woman (1 Corinthians 11:3).
“So when you marry him you come under his authority. You are not authority sharers even though you are both heirs to the kingdom of God.
“When you decide not to subject yourself to that authority, you are a rebel and God is not going to accept what you are doing because you are not functioning correctly.
“Authority therefore, is the ability to compel or persuade a person or group of persons to act right in order to achieve a set goals and objectives.
“What is wrong about that?
“Power on the other hand is the application of coercion, force, sanctions to compel a person to act against his will.
“Making woman was not God’s original plan. Man wasn’t lonely but alone.
“The bible didn’t say a partner or a supervisor or a special advisor or someone to tell him what to do.
“God gave man a responsibility so woman was made to help man achieve that responsibility.
“If this is understood in every home then you won’t have problems.
“Let me tell you, no husband wants another mother, he has had one all his life.
“He doesn’t want an older sister, he probably had one.
“Your secret (as a woman) is in obedience. Your secret is in listening to your husband. Your secret is in doing the things that please him.
“When you don’t do the things that please him, you take the role of a mother or of an older sister.
“A man loves the one he serves (God) and the one that serves him (a good wife). He fights the one that wants to be at the same level with him (a rebellious wife).
“To be happy in your family and home is the easiest thing in the world, just take your role.